How to recognize a flirt in a man and what qualities are characteristic of him – the opinion of a psychologist – June 23, 2024 Posting in CHAT: Russia Some men cannot refuse female attention Source: Yuri Orlov / Network of city portals Many women want to meet a reliable and responsible partner to start a family. In turn, men can take advantage of this and try to hide their tendency to be left-sided and their reluctance to build long-term relationships. And girls, in order not to be disappointed, are looking for ways to identify a possible tomboy on dates. NGS.RU spoke with psychotherapists to find out what signs indicate a man who tends to scatter his attention on several women at once. And the girls named the “red flags” by which women are identified, and we sorted them out with an expert. Why do people cheat? Psychologist Inga Ignatenia cites as an example the classification of American family psychotherapist Scott Woolley. According to him, there are six types of betrayal. The first is romantic, usually happens during a business trip, at a resort, on vacation, when a person is overwhelmed with romantic feelings. The second betrayal is protest: it is used as a weapon of revenge for claims against a partner, real or imaginary. The third type seeks to attract the attention of his wife - this is how a man tries to show what other women like. The psychologist explains that this is a kind of manipulation Inga Ignatenya is a psychologist, family psychotherapist, member of the OPPL (All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League), psychology teacher at the State University (Humanitarian University, Yekaterinburg). , the man decides to cheat in order to end the relationship. Another type of betrayal occurs when a partner is afraid of loneliness and wants to insure himself in case of separation. Another type of betrayal is sexual addiction. Because of this, as with other addictions, people try to suppress anxiety, worries and negative emotions. How to recognize a woman at the first stage As psychotherapist from Novosibirsk Igor Lyakh explains, first of all you need to pay attention to where a woman meets. man For example, if this happens in some clubs or at parties where non-normative social behavior is encouraged, then we must take into account that the concentration of unreliable men there will be high. But if the potential partner is a neighbor or colleague, then it will be more difficult for him to hide his dark sides. It is much easier to do the same on social networks. Igor Lyakh is a psychotherapist included in the unified register of psychotherapists in Europe. Member of the European Confederation of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, member of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League, member of the Association of Supervisors and Consultants, professor of Novosibirsk State Medical University. — It is important how a person’s behavior is actually formed. There are no obvious signs that a man is a tomboy. There are those who are proud of their image and immediately communicate their intentions, but we do not take them into account,” notes Igor Lyakh. According to him, the first relatively obvious sign is a man’s fixation only on sexual relations. The second is unclear contact, in which a man quickly changes when communicating with his partner, gets distracted, shows insufficient interest, especially after he has achieved his goal - and lately, as a rule, men have reported this. They talk about their past relationships, and it becomes clear that in their value system, honesty, decency and loyalty do not matter much, says Igor Lyakh. - In addition, mutual acquaintances or people around you can tell you about a tendency to cheat. Finding love is sometimes not easy Source: Artyom Ustyuzhanin / E1.RU Psychologist Inga Ignatenia emphasizes that from the very beginning of a relationship you should be attentive and aware. and keep your ears open - you can directly ask whether a man is prone to cheating, how much he considers fidelity a value in a relationship, what his priorities are in life, whether stable relationships and marriage are important. And then listen to him, observing his facial expression, intonation and body reaction. Because the question is direct, sometimes even provocative, and a person will not be able to control all his reactions to it, one way or another he will give it away, the psychologist emphasizes. In such a situation, intuition and observation will help. In addition, it is important to note how much a person can control emotions - this is called the level of differentiation of the “I”. The lower it is, the easier a person’s intellect and his thought processes fall under the power of emotions. If he easily gives in to his desires, then, most likely, he is prone to betrayal. When meeting a potential partner, you should not succumb to illusions and soberly evaluate the candidate. The psychologist advises paying attention to how a man behaves with waiters, waitresses or taxi drivers - he can attack them and cannot control his emotions during communication. The next “red flag” is hidden even in the little things. This is worth paying attention to even when a man cheats not on his partner, but on those around him. And another sign is envy, especially towards other men who have mistresses. The ability to subordinate your emotions to reasoning and understand the consequences plays a role. A mature, adult, conscious person, of course, also experiences some fleeting desires and impulses, he sees beautiful women and reacts to them,” noted Inga Ignatenia. "But he can contain it." He has a conscience, shame, gratitude and love for his wife and family, responsibility. Sometimes men cannot restrain their impulses and desires, the result is betrayal Source: Irina Sharova / 72.RU The psychologist also recommends that women pay attention to a man’s relationships. with his mother. If his words express clear disrespect for her, hostility and contempt, he projects the same onto other women. Even if a partner cares and gives compliments, then we can expect that inside he does not respect women and uses them. In addition, it is worth finding out how the father behaved in the family. If he also cheated on his mother, then the son can go in two ways: either copy his behavior in marriage, or go into denial and, conversely, refuse to cheat - If you notice that he likes to wink at girls, flirt. just progress, and it seems safe, you still have to be careful. It’s not for nothing that a man needs the affection of other people’s women. It is clear that he has a flaw [внимания] inside, and after these blows, perhaps harmless, he will need more serious signs of love, emphasizes Inga Ignatenia. The NGS.RU Women's Council asked subscribers of its Telegram channel to tell us what signs they use to identify cheaters and womanizers. And Inga Ignatenia answered how justified such observations are: “Too many compliments, the feeling that he is telling everyone the same thing” - This can be either a sign of a person prone to deception, or simply a sign of an insecure guy. . who memorized date expressions to talk about something on first dates. He could read books, articles, or even watch videos and use them specifically as instructions. I know this from practice - I have such young people in therapy. They are just very afraid of girls, so they are forced to remember and tell everyone the same thing. But this is not necessarily an indicator of what will change in the future. “Frequent glances at girls and women passing by” - Yes, there may be a tendency towards future betrayal, and at the same time a natural reaction. A man reacts normally to beautiful women. And he is often unable to control himself, especially if he is young and not yet married. “He compulsively says that he is not cheating” - this may indicate that he is prone to cheating. Why else would he bring this up? As they say, if you're not asked, don't dance. If he insists on this, it is as if he wants to lower his guard. On the other hand, this may be a request to the woman to answer that she is also faithful to him, to calm his anxiety. Of course, it cannot be said that a person with such qualities is a womanizer. But if the majority of them are present, then this is a reason to think Source: Yuri Orlov / Network of city portals “Women are the most jealous” - Yes, this could be a signal. A man knows that he himself easily deceives; accordingly, he passes this on to his wife or partner - it seems to him that others are the same as him; In addition, if women easily engage in sexual relations with him, he becomes more suspicious of his wife. “Everyone is a womanizer until he meets the one” - No, unfortunately, this is not true. At first - yes, if he loved her very much and she reciprocated with the same strong love. This will take some time; of course, he won’t cheat. But life takes its toll: we got married, and sex is already a marital duty. Routine, everyday life begins, people stop hiding unpleasant character traits, then conflicts, mutual withdrawal, even cooling. And when a child is born, there is always a crisis in the family. And…
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psychologist – about Pelageya’s ex-husband’s ban on letting their daughter go abroad – Russia today Posting in CHAT: Russia The ex-husband of singer Pelageya, hockey player Ivan Telegin, forbade their common daughter to travel abroad. Psychologist Irina Gulyaeva explained why the athlete decided to do this: “He solves some problems not directly with his mother, but through the child, involving him in his relationship with his ex-wife.” He wanted to show with this action that he could, roughly speaking, put everyone in their place at one moment,” the psychologist noted. According to the expert, Telegin thus “wants to punish” the woman and take revenge on her, manipulating the child in order to allegedly prove his strength and importance. Gulyaeva emphasized that for the girl this is a very big trauma, which will develop into a feeling of rejection and betrayal. In addition, the psychologist noted, this can lead the child to enter into some kind of codependent relationships with people, and can also experience betrayal. According to REN TV, Telegin and Pelageya got married in 2016. In their marriage, they had a daughter, Taisiya. Later, after the divorce, the athlete called his relationship with Pelageya toxic and cruel. He stated that he understands the Hollywood actor. It's a good thing for Johnny Depp, because he was also a victim. Source link Source link